Tuesday, August 6, 2019
When life gives you a hundred reasons to cry, show life that you have a thousand reasons to smile. ~Author Unknown
For those of us who are baby boomers, whose parents are now elderly, I'm wondering how you are emotionally handling watching your mother or father age? My mother Beverly is eighty-six and has Alzheimer's. Mom now lives in Michigan near my sister and her family they are her caretakers. The photo above is a recent picture of mom and me taken a couple of weeks ago when I was visiting her at the assisted living facility.
It is sad seeing mom becoming frail and even harder leaving her to come home to Florida, where I live. I don't like to see my mom weak she had always been the strong one. She needs assistance to get around, she is very unsteady which is so sad because not that many years ago she was walking ten miles a day, she loved to walk. She also exercised daily, and played golf on a regular basis. But not anymore!
It's hard to believe that Alzheimer's was first discovered in 1906, and that not much has changed about the disease since then. Currently, at least 44 million people all over the world live with Alzheimer's in spite of the continued efforts through research to find a cure.
I miss having conversations with mom, like we used to. Now I have to remind her who I am. I can call her but she doesn't know it's me, her Bunny baby, as she called me. I will return to see mom again in September, and hold her hand, like I did when I was a small child because I needed her security. The truth is that I still need her security, but she doesn't know that anymore, but I know it, so I'll cling to her as long as I can.
LOVE YOU, MOM!
Tuesday, April 2, 2019
I'm sharing two of my favorite things today. This beautiful poem from Winnie the Pooh and a bible verse, and passage from my favorite book Streams In Desert
Be still, and know that I am God.
There is immense power in stillness. A great saint once said,
"All things come to him who knows how to trust and be silent."
The words are pregnant with meaning. A knowledge of this fact would immensely change our ways of working. Instead of restless struggles, we would "sit down" inwardly before the Lord, and would let the Divine forces of His Spirit work out in silence the ends to which we aspire. You may not see or feel the operations of this silent force, but be assured it is always working mightily, and will work for you, if you only get your spirit still enough to be carried along by the currents of its power. Hannah Whitall Smith
We should get into the habit of looking for the silver lining of storm clouds.
One day in Autumn, while on the open prairie, I saw an eagle mortally wounded by a rifle shot. With his eyes still gleaming like small circles of light, he slowly turned his head, giving one last searching and longing look toward the sky. He had often swept those starry spaces with his wonderful wings. The beautiful sky was the home of his heart. It was the eagle's domain. It was there he had displayed his splendid strength a thousand times. In those lofty heights, he had played with the lightning and raced the wind. And now, far below his home, the eagle lay dying,. He faced death because ----just once---he forgot and flew too low.
My soul is that eagle. This is not its home. It must never lose its skyward look. I must keep faith, I must keep hope, I must keep courage, I must keep Christ. It would be better to crawl immediately from the battlefield than to not be brave. There is no time for my soul to retreat. Keep your skyward look, my soul; keep your skyward look!
We can never see the sunrise by looking toward the west.
Thursday, March 7, 2019
My daughter Nicki loved smily face. She had smily face stickers and a shirt, and she drew Smily on her notes or when she wrote letters. After she died I became fonder of smily face because it was something happy that reminded me of Nicki. So after she died Smily had a deeper meaning for me! Losing her led me to research smily face and I learned that the original version of smily face was created by the late Harvey Ross Ball over 50 years ago in Worcester, Massachusetts. He came up with the image in 1963 when he was asked to create a graphic to promote confidence and enthusiasm between employees at work. That's pretty cool way to bring people together, I think! It only took Ball ten minutes to create Smily, and he was only paid $45.00 for his work. The office he worked for then created posters, buttons and other visuals of Smily in hopes that their employees would smile more often during work. Many people and large companies have tried to claim they created Smily because it's so popular, and it has been said that Smily is so basic that it can't be credited to anyone for designing it. But for me the simplicity of Smily with those big dark eyes and a huge smile have made my life happier and sunnier. And Smily helps me smile more often and that causes me to smile bigger and brighter. It's a beautiful thing when something so simple can remind us all to smile more :) And you never know who you may pass by because it could be someone who may need to see your beautiful smile, or maybe someone you work with, or a complete stranger you could be helping. So put your smily on and see what happens. I know I'm going to... Keep smiling :) Love, Bunny
Sunday, February 3, 2019
Saturday, December 2, 2017
Finding your path to Peace In a Troubled World
"To find peace, sometimes you have to be willing to lose your connection with the people, places, and things that create all the noise in your life."
As a life coach, I help people find their path to happiness. I help people figure out how to move forward to create a life with purpose and meaning. I can't think of anything I find more rewarding than helping people resolve confusion in their mind. I enjoy helping people see possibilities that are new and fresh so they can move beyond what is holding them back.
What I've found since I've been coaching people is that we all long for many of the same things, contentment, peace, love, acceptance, and fellowship with others. When I ask people what they desire most, many say that they want a carefree happy life with little stress.
Success seems to be at the top of most peoples list, but success is defined differently from one person to the next. Being at peace, being happy, and having great friends go hand in hand, and seem to be universal to humans, even animals long for acceptance and love. The fork in the road is when we run into unexpected obstacles that veer us off our path. Seems that we would all be happier and more content without obstacles? Perhaps that's true but in life, we will at times face the unexpected. Unfortunately, there is disease, and other health problems, depression, drug addiction, accidents, and betrayal, the list is long. These unwanted disruptions that cause people to veer off course can confuse and disrupt not only the person but others around them. At times we will have to overcome unwanted interruptions. This shouldn't cause us to live in fear but rather to be aware that life is full of up's and downs, and problems that have to be resolved. Its how we react and recover from life's setbacks and how soon we get back on our own path that keeps us on course.
Getting back on your path when something veers you off is the fastest way that you will overcome difficult situations and keep your focus. Your path may be forgiveness, faith, or letting go of something or someone that is holding you back. It's knowing how to come to terms with disappointments, hurts or anything that holds you back. This is what defines strength and perseverance.
At times I find it difficult to stay focused on my future and keep walking my path. Feelings of regret hold me back. Dwelling on bad decisions I made instead of forgiving myself hold me back. But what helps me when these thoughts come in is to remind myself that I can't go back and change the decisions. But I can go forward and think deeper and forgive myself.
My peaceful path is writing, meditating, and taking long walks along the ocean. These are the things I do when I feel stress or have a situation that troubles me. My path is long and full of ups and downs but I've learned to keep walking it even in the winter when there are no flowers in bloom. My winter coat is heavy but I keep walking my path because spring is just around the corner...
Sunday, October 1, 2017
Tuesday, October 3, 2017 will be (would be) Nicki’s 32ed birthday. As her mother its still terribly hard to believe that she is no longer here to celebrate with us. And yes, I know she is still with us in spirit and that is comforting ❤️
But it would be more comforting to be able to give her a hug.
Nicolette Beverly Leach
October 3, 1985 ~ April 29, 2005
Most of us who knew and loved Nicki remember her for her beauty, grace, and her perseverance. She was always a triple threat because she had a beautiful voice, she could dance and act. Acting was in her blood and she was filled with ambition, and a strong will to succeed. She loved acting and performing, especially on stage. Her ultimate goal was to one day perform on Broadway, so perhaps there is Broadway in heaven.
But more important than Nicki's talents, and her earthly dreams, and goals in the performing arts Nicki is more remembered for her human kindness to all. This is what we all loved about Nicki, and her laughter, she laughed a lot and had a great sense of humor.
Nicki gave great hugs 🤗
Sadly all of Nicki's efforts to succeed in making her dreams come true on this earth were cut short when she was diagnosed with brain cancer, a glioblastoma, brain tumor, the deadliest brain cancer of all with no cure. She had just turned seventeen-years old.
To keep Nicki's memory alive and to honor her request to "find a way to help other young adults who have cancer" the Nicki Leach Foundation was created in 2006 in her memory. In addition to the foundations work with helping young adults who have cancer the foundation also works in collaboration with the glioblastoma/brain cancer research lab at Duke University. More information about our collaboration with Duke can be found on the Nicki Leach Foundation website.
Losing a child is beyond the scope of understanding and is unimaginable to most mothers/parents, and I understand that because the thought was once unimaginable to me. But if it happens it is something one never "gets over." The pain and grief experienced from the loss of a child lives inside of us like our own hidden cancer with no cure. But there are ways to ease the pain of losing a loved one and through our efforts at the Nicki Leach Foundation to "do good works for others" our suffering can subsidie a little.
Nicki had many wonderful friends and family members on this earth besides me, and I know we all miss her in our own way. I hope Nicki's friends and family members will share their own stories of love for her and remembrance of her on her birthday, it means a lot to her family to hear how much she is loved and remembered.
So, let’s celebrate 🎉 Nicki's birthday October 3, and celebrate her memory together, and at the same time honor other young adults who are currently battling cancer. Nicki would like that!
To make a donation to help a young adult who is battling cancer in Nicki's memory please log into our official website
Love to all... 🙏
Tuesday, September 5, 2017
We moved to New Jersey because we were both offered advacment in our careers and several other opportunities. My fabulous husband Kurt is the new director of clinical cancer research at Atlantic Health Systems, and is a practicing neruo-oncologist taking care of brain tumor patients.
The photo on the top left is a picture of my New Jersey writing office in the city overlooking the sidewalk that leads to downtown Summit and to the direct train into Penn Station NYC.
I'm so happy with the remodel of my office. Kurt and I had a fun time designing it with white window shutters that contrast the dark hard wood floors freshly painted walls and we installed a ceiling fan. Kurt built me floor to ceiling bookcase which I immediately filled with my favorite books and things. I'm working with a new agency to promote my two books TURTLE SHELLS: Heading Through Cancer, and TURTLE HATCHING'S: Breathing New Life. My hope is to have a new publisher very soon and that both books will be available again with the possibility of book to movie or Broadway show.
In other news I have taken a three-year term on the moleculor tumor board as a member of the TAPUR study (the Targeted Agent Profiling Utilization Registry) for ASCO (American Society for Clinical Oncology) their first clinical trial. ASCO is the world's leading professional organization representing physicians who take care of people with cancer. "Clinical trials are research studies that involve patients. The TAPUR trial is a clinical trial for people with later-stage cancer. The trial is focused on whether specific targeted therapies can benefit more patients and lead to more personalized therapies. This is the first of it's kind.
I continue to run the Nicki Leach Foundation and ask for your support to help young adults with cancer by making a donation at www.nickileach.org
This November the foundation will fully fund our endowed scholarship at UNF, the University of North Florida, in Jacksonville Florida. The foundation was responsible for $25,000 before it became fully funded, and we met our obligation. It's dissappointing that we had very little support locally to help us reach our $25,000 goal. It was mostly funded through a private foundation out of California. Even without the support of Nicki's home town in Ponte Vedra, and Jacksonville Florida we successfully succeeded to persevere like Nicki did and fully fund the endowment. If a local teenager or young adult should need assistnace at UNF the Nicki Leach Foundation endowed fund is there in place to help someones college student continue their education if they were to get cancer, just like Nicki did.
Best Wishes to all!